unfortunately i had to learn it the hard way. The results?
1. I lost a career opportunity (an opportunity to work with an amazing/ inspiring career woman),
2. wasted my time waiting for the job when i could have go for other alternative,
3. was humiliated & morale was reduced to zero!! This morning was my first day at my new job and i was really excited to learn new things & meet new people. However, the excitement was short live. After what seem like 2hours of handover was drained down when 'Miss S' invited me to the room to deliver the bad news. I was dumbfounded, caught unaware & i tried all means to stay collected. I was anguish coz' after traveling all the way down & wasted 2 hours of my time, i was dismissed! Why won't u let me know in advance so i can save the trip? i could've very well make my time useful at home, sending resumes.
This predicament was totally unnecessary. I was told i acted unprofessionally & childish. If i was being unprofessional, i don't suppose Mr W is any better. Your agenda was clear cut. The very moment you sound the incident out to Miss S, you had every mind to crash me. You could have confronted me straight.
I am not saying i am not at fault. If you say publicizing your face and bad mouthing you on my blog was unrighteous & unprofessional, i apologize. But what happened to 'my blog, my say'? I always thought not going against you or speaking against you when i'm pissed off with you is my way of being professional. Afterall, you're my manager & knowing your character, i can never put myself to talk back to you or even shout at you in front others. Surely i had to vent my displease somewhere & many times i chose to control. But that particular day ( 22 June 09, to be exact), my anger & tolerance shot up to the peak. Trapped & nobody to turn to at that very moment, i blogged about it. I did not realized that one time turns fatal.
Why was i unhappy? I feel unappreciated that day. In fact, i struggled almost any other day. You were unaware how many times i've helped you cover up when the bosses ask about your whereabout. I know for sure you do not have morning appointment everyday & that you can only come in at 10 or 11am. I had to lie, that made me a sinner & you a saint. And let's be honest, your youtube browsing did not helped either. It has become part of your routine in the office to browse youtube while we work for you. You're unaware how disturbed i/ we felt whenever you try to share the video with us. We had to put our work on hold to accommodate you. Many times when i have doubts with work, i can never get your full attention. And the strangest & most bizarre thing was, when we surf unauthorized sites or even catch a video on youtube & you caught us doing so, you reprimand us sternly.
I recall an incident where i was watching an episode on youtube during lunch time, you were time clocking me; constantly asking 'how long more is the video'. Hello? it's my lunch time, don't i get a little leisure time? The next thing i know, he was watching some variety show on youtube. so much for being professional?
If "i am a manager, i can do whatever i want" is your way with things, i think you're not setting an example for your subordinate. There are so much more i can state, like there are times where you use office hours for your personal stuff (car shopping, sending gf/ taking care of her when she's feeling unwell....) is that what you want your subordinate to learn from you? Can we do the same or only MANAGERS get away with all this "perks"? I say, you're just abusing you authority.
I didn't want to confront you all this while coz' i want to give you the respect & i didn't want our friendship to turn sour or to jeopardize our working relationship. Afterall, you're my superior. I believe this is my way of being professional & for me to even tolerate so much, i don't consider myself childish.
Anyway, thanks for ruining the plans i had for this new job & my life. I am pretty use to you doing such thing behind my back. You had no idea, do you? Allow me to refresh your memory. Remember when i blurted out my displease with the company & that i wanna quit? I was just being spiteful coz' i was angry with you & the management for not appreciating me. I was still considering & the next thing i know, you voiced it out to Mr J. He approached me, hoping to get a reason for my tots of leaving, i sound it out to him & half way thru he had a meeting & we never spoke further. The very next thing i know, Mr E came in. I was pushed to a corner where i can't turn back. I wanted very much to stay until my bonus came, afterall i worked hard for it. let's not forget the incident where you & mr J played me out about my departing date. Whoever lied? You said it was mr J but he claimed otherwise. I was, once again humiliated. Left with no reason to stay, i left with hopes to find a new career path. And you got in the way again...
Many reprimand that i shouldn't add you on facebook. I didn't care coz' i always thought that there should be no grudges after i left the company & i do still treat you as a mentor/ friend. I didn't expect your pettiness to get in the way. Maybe i shouldn't have...
P.S: I know you will probably read this. And yes, i finally voiced out on my own blog. No point confronting each other. I just wanna let it all out here & forget about the whole incident. And rest assured that no names are mention, so i don't suppose i am being unprofessional.
